Friday, March 11, 2022

63 Things About Me: #47 Deanna

Deanna was my fathers 5th and 7th wife. So I lived with her a lot. In fact from about 11 to 17 when I left for college. But this isn't about Deanna, per say. It is about a comment that summarizes her and that Ed and I have changed over time to a standing joke.

Seriously, now her cold ass comments are a joke.

Caught in a candid moment by Zela. By the glare on her face, they must have been looking at me.

First let me say that many of our relationship issues were via my father, who would tell her one thing and me another. It was exacerbated by my father's insistence I call her "mom". Look at the cold fish above, would you want to call her "mom". Particularly when your own mother was alive and well? Maybe I should have objected but aI was an 11 year old who was always afraid of offending anyone.

There are lots of crappy stories I could tell about Deanna. LOTS. But that is for another time (and nightmares). So we are going with a different story.

I was feeling particularly awful one day with a canker sore in my mouth. I was probably 12 at the time. Deanna was at home as we got ready for school (myself and her two sons). I went to her for advice and hopefully to get some remedy for the pain. 

I walked up and said, " I have a canker sore..." 

And before I could finish the sentence, she said "Well, it's going to get worse before it gets better." I think she cackled, but that might be my misremembering.

I remember walking away and deciding that I never would go to her again for advice on anything after that. Anything. I wasn't always able to keep that promise to myself, but I did about 85% of the time.

Her snide, bitchy comment succeeded in her plan to keep a staggering distance between us.


BUT, Ed and I have now made it a joke. When watching TV or a movie and someone complains about almost anything, Ed or I will say "It's gonna get worse before it gets better."

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