In reading something today, an advice columnist responded to a problem with this information. And I WANT to take it to heart. I have a huge problem doing it, but I want to try.
It is from The Four Agreements, by Don Miguel Ruiz. As advertised, the book addresses four rules to live by, and this is the one I have to work on the hardest.
Do not take anything personally.
When somebody talks about you, they are talking about a secondary character in their story who represents you; they are talking about an image they create for you. That image has nothing to do with you; it’s just a projection of that person’s story. If you take it personally, if you agree and believe what others say, their story becomes a part of your story. If you don’t take it personally, the opinions of others do not affect you, and this helps you to avoid a lot of suffering and conflict.
Once you understand that the opinions, the beliefs, and the point of view other people use to see the world has nothing to do with you, then you no longer even try not to take anything personally. This awareness makes you immune to what other people think about you, and what’s more important, it makes you immune to what you think about yourself.”
I will try (that is a promise to me, not you). It is a tough one in a world where everyone judges and has an opinion on everything. The internet gives anyone a chance to broadcast it.
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