Take a good look at people's ruling principles, especially of the wise, whaat they run away from and what they seek out.
This meditation seems fairly obvious to me. Often we find someone that we admire then try to mimic what we admire about them.
I did this when I signed up and helped with Project 1948. Ed did this when he became a board member for a non-profit housing group. Lynn set a great example for others by volunteering at a food back after the hurricane.
I admire many things about my friends. I think it is hard to find and keep a great friend if there is nothing you admire about them.